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NECESSITY OF MARRYING SOMEONE OF THE SAME IDEOLOGY by #GiwaBaye
This question always arise, MUST YOU MARRY A TIJANI?? If I am to answer the question, I will say NO because it's not compulsory, since it's not stated in the Quran or Hadith, but it's necessary as the case may be.
Nowadays, many of us are fond of complaining about our Tijani brothers and sisters, you will hear them(sisters) saying " they want us to marry Tijani brother, and they are as bad as devil, they are not even near good". Although they fail to narrate what transpired between them behind 'closed doors' that's where they got it wrong.
<<Now back to this question : "MUST YOU MARRY A TIJANI BROTHER OR SISTER?
The answer should be " it's necessary to marry a person of the same ideology to avoid unnecessary problems, so it's best to marry a Tijani if you are also a Tijani. Here, there is an important point to know which goes thus :
A TIJANI in the above content is the person that strictly adhere to the principle of Tijaniyyah practice, he/she must follow Shariah and Qur'an strictly as Sheikh Tijani (RTA) instructed us to follow it.
So falling in the hand of pseudo Tijani (false Tijani) and claiming "those Tijani brothers or sisters are not good, they are worse etc" My dear brothers and sisters , don't get it wrong, you are not dealing with or most likely have not dealt with a real Tijani brother or sister but pseudo Tijani, so don't claim and stop uttering those words. Because no matter how or what the person claim he or she is, for as long as his or her actions contradict the Prophetic traditions strictly, such person is not a TIJANI. Please lets correct that.
<<YOU CLAIM TO BE GOOD TIJANI, AND END UP FALLING UNDER THIS RELATIONSHIP CANCER..
If you are a victim of the issue being discussed; some of these points are worth paying attention to:
1. You attract your kind : you think you are a Tijani, but in reality you are not, so the kind of person you will be engaging with will be the kind of person you are. It's not magical.
LIKE MINDS ATTRACT, UNLIKE MINDS REPEL...
WHAT YOU SEEK IS SEEKING YOU ( you will end up meeting him/her because he/she is seeking you too.
2. It may be a test for you, but if it persist, check yourself, you might have fallen under category one.
IS THERE REMEDY TO IT?
if I will answer this, I will say YES!
Because what has defect has correction. If you are a victim of this relationship cancer, here are my personal advice for you:
1. Check yourself by self assessment and self evaluation.
2. Ask yourself, what's my perspective to Sufism, if you are able to answer that, then ask yourself "are my able to live with it? If YES, at what percentage, if NO, why? But if you don't know your perspective to Sufism, you will have to go back and define why you are a Tijani or Mutassawwuf.
3. There is a force in you that is stimulating this cancer, it serve as a stimulant to it, which is your soul (NAFSI). Mostly, our ladies that had this relationship cancer are being affected seriously by Self conceit and Pride.... It's very dangerous for them, but its very unfortunate that many are not aware of it because most of them do not have proper mentoring (Murshid) that can cure this for them, which is another cancer on its own, and if proper care is not taken, it may affect spiritual journey such person claims to embark upon. So tackling this inner and powerful force will affect your result towards this cure either positively or negatively. Because the force is a driving gear while you are the driver.
4. Have it in mind that you want to be changed and work seriously towards it.
5. Another thing is spiritual world vs materialistic world, the two can be balanced, it depends on the person. But if you happen to be the type that falls under dominance of materialistic world and you are seeking for a good brother that is spiritually upright, it's likely you dont see one, because you both are operating at different worlds entirely. And you will like such person because he possesses what is good for you, but you are not ready or qualified to acquire it. YORUBA ADAGE SAYS "NNKAN DAADAA NAA WU OLE".
6. You can read an ADVICE FOR MY DEAR BROTHERS AND SISTERS, I wrote this too concerning the relationship cancer.
Conclusively, is it compulsory for you as a Tijani to marry someone of your ideology? It's only necessary because:
1. It may likely save your spiritual lineage whereby your offsprings will be good Tijani (though Allah doesn't promise you that all your offsprings will be Tijani) but at least you are playing it safe, this only goes to TIJANI BROTHER AND SISTER, not pseudo Tijani.
2. You may not have issues relating to Aqeedah(ideology) difference in your relationship.
3. It's of added advantage because you are both trending on the spiritual path, whereby easy to solve some challenges you may encounter as the case may be. Etc..
So my brethren, enough of the accusations and abuses on those that unleash evils on you in the name of Tijaniyyah, as they are not Tijanis they claim to be. May Allah give us the best of Spouse and save our marriages. Ameen
Sheikh Ibrahim Niasse (RTA) said "As for those who attribute themselves to me and commit anything contrary to the honorable sharia by engaging in haram and neglecting Divine commands, then Allah is my witness and you are my witnesses that I am free from such people (i.e. they are not my followers). Oh Allah, I am innocent from what those have done."
Written by:
Giwa Ibrahim Baye
NECESSITY OF MARRYING SOMEONE OF THE SAME IDEOLOGY by #GiwaBaye
This question always arise, MUST YOU MARRY A TIJANI?? If I am to answer the question, I will say NO because it's not compulsory, since it's not stated in the Quran or Hadith, but it's necessary as the case may be.
Nowadays, many of us are fond of complaining about our Tijani brothers and sisters, you will hear them(sisters) saying " they want us to marry Tijani brother, and they are as bad as devil, they are not even near good". Although they fail to narrate what transpired between them behind 'closed doors' that's where they got it wrong.
<<Now back to this question : "MUST YOU MARRY A TIJANI BROTHER OR SISTER?
The answer should be " it's necessary to marry a person of the same ideology to avoid unnecessary problems, so it's best to marry a Tijani if you are also a Tijani. Here, there is an important point to know which goes thus :
A TIJANI in the above content is the person that strictly adhere to the principle of Tijaniyyah practice, he/she must follow Shariah and Qur'an strictly as Sheikh Tijani (RTA) instructed us to follow it.
So falling in the hand of pseudo Tijani (false Tijani) and claiming "those Tijani brothers or sisters are not good, they are worse etc" My dear brothers and sisters , don't get it wrong, you are not dealing with or most likely have not dealt with a real Tijani brother or sister but pseudo Tijani, so don't claim and stop uttering those words. Because no matter how or what the person claim he or she is, for as long as his or her actions contradict the Prophetic traditions strictly, such person is not a TIJANI. Please lets correct that.
<<YOU CLAIM TO BE GOOD TIJANI, AND END UP FALLING UNDER THIS RELATIONSHIP CANCER..
If you are a victim of the issue being discussed; some of these points are worth paying attention to:
1. You attract your kind : you think you are a Tijani, but in reality you are not, so the kind of person you will be engaging with will be the kind of person you are. It's not magical.
LIKE MINDS ATTRACT, UNLIKE MINDS REPEL...
WHAT YOU SEEK IS SEEKING YOU ( you will end up meeting him/her because he/she is seeking you too.
2. It may be a test for you, but if it persist, check yourself, you might have fallen under category one.
IS THERE REMEDY TO IT?
if I will answer this, I will say YES!
Because what has defect has correction. If you are a victim of this relationship cancer, here are my personal advice for you:
1. Check yourself by self assessment and self evaluation.
2. Ask yourself, what's my perspective to Sufism, if you are able to answer that, then ask yourself "are my able to live with it? If YES, at what percentage, if NO, why? But if you don't know your perspective to Sufism, you will have to go back and define why you are a Tijani or Mutassawwuf.
3. There is a force in you that is stimulating this cancer, it serve as a stimulant to it, which is your soul (NAFSI). Mostly, our ladies that had this relationship cancer are being affected seriously by Self conceit and Pride.... It's very dangerous for them, but its very unfortunate that many are not aware of it because most of them do not have proper mentoring (Murshid) that can cure this for them, which is another cancer on its own, and if proper care is not taken, it may affect spiritual journey such person claims to embark upon. So tackling this inner and powerful force will affect your result towards this cure either positively or negatively. Because the force is a driving gear while you are the driver.
4. Have it in mind that you want to be changed and work seriously towards it.
5. Another thing is spiritual world vs materialistic world, the two can be balanced, it depends on the person. But if you happen to be the type that falls under dominance of materialistic world and you are seeking for a good brother that is spiritually upright, it's likely you dont see one, because you both are operating at different worlds entirely. And you will like such person because he possesses what is good for you, but you are not ready or qualified to acquire it. YORUBA ADAGE SAYS "NNKAN DAADAA NAA WU OLE".
6. You can read an ADVICE FOR MY DEAR BROTHERS AND SISTERS, I wrote this too concerning the relationship cancer.
Conclusively, is it compulsory for you as a Tijani to marry someone of your ideology? It's only necessary because:
1. It may likely save your spiritual lineage whereby your offsprings will be good Tijani (though Allah doesn't promise you that all your offsprings will be Tijani) but at least you are playing it safe, this only goes to TIJANI BROTHER AND SISTER, not pseudo Tijani.
2. You may not have issues relating to Aqeedah(ideology) difference in your relationship.
3. It's of added advantage because you are both trending on the spiritual path, whereby easy to solve some challenges you may encounter as the case may be. Etc..
So my brethren, enough of the accusations and abuses on those that unleash evils on you in the name of Tijaniyyah, as they are not Tijanis they claim to be. May Allah give us the best of Spouse and save our marriages. Ameen
Sheikh Ibrahim Niasse (RTA) said "As for those who attribute themselves to me and commit anything contrary to the honorable sharia by engaging in haram and neglecting Divine commands, then Allah is my witness and you are my witnesses that I am free from such people (i.e. they are not my followers). Oh Allah, I am innocent from what those have done."
Written by:
Giwa Ibrahim Baye
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